We all know the saying, “When one door closes, another door opens.” And as difficult as it may be when a door slams into your backside, the excitement of what lies ahead will quickly ease the pain — if you’re willing to look forward!
As our hair turns gray, our bodies gravitate in a southward direction, and our nests become empty (or, nearly so), it’s easy to overlook the doors that may be opening for us if we are too set in old habits and patterns. Change at any age is difficult, but it’s especially tough in the fourth and latter decades.
Some of you may not need or want a change. Good for you! But many of us are smack dab in the middle of a middle-age change — welcomed or otherwise — and are in need of guidance.
For me, my backside is burning from the number of doors that have closed in recent years, but I’m eager about the plethora of options I now have. For starters, I always wanted to move to a warmer climate, but my then-husband’s career kept us grounded in Missouri. With its freezing winters and smoldering summers, my body simply rebels! Put me in the tropics or a like climate however, and I’m 15 years younger instantaneously!
As I search for the appropriate career opportunity, my options are limited only by my personal preference for how close to a beach I can be! Though I won’t pass up the perfect job just because it’s in, oh, let’s say — Tennessee — I will take a lesser salary for a warm coastal region.
The door is open to that warmer climate, and I fully hope to soon find my way through it! A decade ago, I never would’ve dreamed that this kind on an opportunity would come my way, nor would I have appreciated the freedom generated by getting hit in the backside with a different door as it slammed me forward.
Not all doors are so easy to recognize, however. Likewise, we have to be aware that a door does not have to close in order for us to take advantage of the infinite possibilities available to us at this stage of our lives.
If you want or need a change, what’s stopping you? In the words of famous comedian Milton Berle, “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
Our middle and later years are, in and of themselves, an opportunity. Even as your natural eyesight begins to falter, your internal vision has never been more acute. Keep those eyes open and watch for the opportunities — or build your own door. There is an opportunity just ahead!
~ Lynda C. Watts